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Sunday, September 30, 2007

Change Takes Time

“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.” ~ Genesis 2:18-20 (ESV)

I am a little sore, scratched up and sun-burned today. My Sweetheart and I cleaned our backyard. What a task it was. During the hot summer months, there is not much we can do in our backyard—it is just way too hot. Normally my hubby does all the yard-work, but I thought it is about time I help him. I thought it would be easy to pick up the dead branches that were left from the last spring cleaning…oh was I wrong. My entire body aches.

As I was cleaning with my beloved, I thought about how much God has changed me over the past 25 years—especially the past 2 ½ yeas of our marriage. I realized how much I have been self-centered. It is hard to admit that I have not been always the helper God wanted me to be. The biggest hurdle for me was respecting my husband.

Oh, don’t get me wrong, I always loved my husband, but respect is totally different. I used to moan or roll my eyes about certain things. God showed me through His Word that all my actions are disrespecting my husband – ouch.

You see, I always wanted to spend all our free-time together, but my husband needed some time to unwind. And when we did things, they were always what I wanted to do. Not thinking that my beloved wanted to do something else. Over the years we have developed some of the same interests, like photography. In other things we are still worlds apart, especially when it comes to movies.

I still don’t like horror movies…I used to leave the room with pouting and grumbling under my breath. Today I leave the room with a kiss, tell my Sweetheart that I love him but that I’d rather do something else. Just this little change has brought a little more harmony into our marriage…

Lord of Heaven and Earth. Thank You for Your patience with me. Thank You for showing me what it means to be a helper to my husband. Lord, continue to guide me in our marriage that I will be wife my husband deserves. In the precious name of Jesus ~ Amen.

You can also find me at my personal blog Sting My Heart

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Blogger lori said...

Isn't it amazing what we hear when we listen...I am amazed at what God speaks to me about my husband of 17 years...what a wonderful prayer...

I truly want to be the wife that my husband deserves and desires too!!


September 30, 2007 at 12:20 PM  
Blogger Vicki said...

Your loving attitude truly blesses me.

September 30, 2007 at 12:37 PM  
Blogger Laurel Wreath said...

Compromise is good...and it makes both of you happy in the end (the give and take). Great example you gave.


September 30, 2007 at 3:41 PM  
Blogger Chris @ Come to the Table said...

Great post Iris!

September 30, 2007 at 5:05 PM  
Blogger Denise said...

Enjoyed this post Iris, love you my friend.

September 30, 2007 at 6:20 PM  
Blogger Sue @ praise & coffee said...

Great post- filled with wisdom!


October 1, 2007 at 7:04 AM  
Blogger The Preacher's Wife said...

This was a huge lesson for me - especially being one who has always been very self-sufficient and in control of my own life - or so I thought!

God has rescued me so many times through my husband to teach me he was more than capable of taking care of me if I would just let him.

Great devo!

much love,


October 1, 2007 at 3:41 PM  
Anonymous Lynn said...


You are a wise and beautiful Proverbs Woman. Thank you for this post. Love you, Lynn

October 1, 2007 at 5:41 PM  

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