As part of pastoral ministry, we took couples through pre-marriage counseling or as one of our favorite couples affectionately called it: Pre-Marriage Boot Camp!
We take marriage seriously and required several weeks of meeting and lots of homework.
God created the world and everything we see, and then He created man. They found that even with all the beauty of creation including the animals, Adam was still missing something. So God formed the woman out of the side of Adam, He said that she was a suitable helper to Adam. She was part of him, but now separate, and when God brought them together, they were one. Congratulations, the first marriage.
I believe that our communities, states and nation are only as strong as our individual families are. We as wives play such a huge part in keeping the family unit strong.
The Bible says:
A wise woman builds her house; a foolish woman tears hers down
with her own hands.
Those are some powerful words. This verse resonates in my mind when I’m struggling with my attitude…which hardly ever happens (ducking from impending lightning strike).
I hear some of you…. "but I’m only part of this, my husband needs to hear this more than I do!” Maybe so, but Proverbs 14:1 is spoken to us, not them.
I want to be a wise woman, and when I look at the scope of all that’s at stake, I realize that it is in my best interest to keep my heart focused on how God wants me to act in this marriage.
I ask myself, and you… what can I do today to BUILD my house, and how can I avoid tearing it down?
Here are two things that I believe are great building blocks:
1. Instead of pointing the finger at our spouses, let’s point them in the mirror
first and humbly ask…Lord what would you have ME do?
2. Priorities... as Christians, ours should be:
God (personal relationship
Everything else (our priorities here may be
different, depending on our individual circumstances)
Our families are worth it. And yes, it may cost us things like…our pride and ‘having our own way’. But the peace that comes from a heart submitted to God…priceless.
Father, I ask you to help us as women to honor You with our lives. Help us to forgive the offenses that we may have towards our husbands. Heal any broken hearts Lord. Give us the strength we need to do what You’ve called us to…and pour Your love into us that we can love our husbands and be the helper You’ve created us to be.
We love You Lord. Thank You for caring so deeply about every detail in our lives.
In Jesus name we pray.